Keep your GOODCON involved in your life. She may not be able to do anything about it but keeping her in the mix is one of the most important aspects of family support. Never treat your inmate as if she has forfeited her place in the family structure. Seek his or her advice on things, inform her of happenings in the family, and most importantly on issues concerning your kids as they grow and have new experiences. Being included means so much, and it is a connection that will enable your GOODCON to maintain contact with the world that she left and give her a running start when she returns to it.
Loss of liberty must never be considered a loss of humanity. We all make mistakes. We all suffer, to some degree, from fear and loneliness, even when we experience a small degree of isolation or separation from those we love (think of how you felt when you had your last hospital stay!). Love your GOODCON, and help him or her maintain a level of self-respect while they suffer through their imprisonment. Yes, I know that you’re doin’ the bid as well . . . BUT YOU CAN ALWAYS GET DRUNK, YO!!!